Tehillah Generation Chapel
Daily Manna | Saturday, June 2, 2018 | Topic: Conscience 35
Scripture: My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge; because you have rejected knowledge, I reject you from being a priest to me. And since you have forgotten the law of your God, I also will forget your children. Hosea 4:6
Note: The “Go your way, I go my way” mantra, unwittingly adopted by some couples at the beginning of their marriage as a nonintrusive approach to peace and independence within the marriage, generally ends up as a trap, setting up couples as aliens living under the same roof. The basic foundation for the weakest form of relationships due to loose bonding had been set right from the beginning on the path of eventual separation. The interests of the marriage union are driven by two separate people with diverse interests towards different directions.
Make no mistake about this mantra. Many couples agree to such a philosophy with uninformed good intentions. Unfortunately, lack of knowledge and the weaknesses inherent in such a loose bonding that’s not premised on the word of God, eventually becomes an albatross on the neck of the couple. The challenges to this type of loose union become evident with the introduction of common challenges that may demand concerted, contrived and committed efforts from both parties to attain a common solution.
Such loose unions have other interesting aspects to their relationship. They each have their own set of friends, and there’s little or no concerted effort to bring their two worlds together. Nobody can deny the impact of friends on a relationship either for good or bad reasons. Friends wield enormous influence on relationships depending on the level of open door policies allowed by the couple. This open door policy can set up the couple to many diverse influences. Many of these influences are doubtful, untested and untried philosophies of warped thinking of men. Desperation coming from unanticipated issues doesn’t permit couples faced with severe challenges the luxury of time to test the suggestions of friends against the unfettered and inerrant word of God, which will never fail.
Friendship can be used to great advantage in marriages and it’s very much encouraged for couples to be great friends themselves. That way, the couples are their own best friends, not individual or even common external friends. The marriage between Hosea and Gomer gave no indication that they were great friends or besties before tying the knot. Additionally, they both had separate set of friends. Hosea was a prophet, a man of God whose passion was for ministry and the things of God. Gomer however, was a former prostitute whose type of friends were involved in revellings, debauchery and licentious cravings. Both sets of friends were miles apart and opposite to each other. Failure to address the issue of friends prior to the marriage, created a perfect arena for a fighting marriage right from the onset.
Food for thought: If you don’t take decisive steps on the place of friends prior to marriage, friends may end up taking decisions for your marriage.
Declaration: Yea, my own familiar friend, in whom I trusted, which did eat of my bread, hath lifted up his heel against me. Psalm 41:9
©Author: Rev Fred Aboe
